Toddler led toileting

A gentle parenting approach to 'potty training'

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Want to start 'potty training' with a gentle parenting approach?

Less training, more like guiding and supporting a normal physiological developmental stage?

You've followed baby led feeding, baby led weaning, and supported your baby with the other development stages such as walking and talking, find out how to follow your toddler's lead for an easier time starting toileting too.


Just like with starting solids, there are 'signs of readiness' to watch out for. This workshop will help you to know when is a good time to start and how to support your child, not impose it on them.


"It’s made me feel less stressed about him taking a step back for a while. I’ll just continue to wait for him to be ready for the final step of big boy pants!!!"

As with eating, it is really important to keep the process of starting toileting as stress free for toddlers as possible. Learning to release wee, and particularly poo, can be psychologically difficult for toddlers. Their body image and self esteem can be impacted by their parents' responses during this developmental stage. Children can be left with long lasting consequences, such as impacted bowels. 

Some of the parenting phrases and approaches you may have seen or heard about, such as sticker charts, can be unhelpful, or even detrimental. It is at this point children learn that their body can be dirty and disgusting, or they can learn that their body is amazing and toileting is a normal bodily function. It starts here, with you.


If you understand the processes going on for them, and have expectations of what is 'normal' development, this can help you be more relaxed, and that will make the whole thing easier for all of you. 


In this workshop you will learn five simple principles to make the process easier, and give your child a positive sense of their body and what it does.  

We will also cover:

  • signs of readiness

  • getting started

  • potty or toilet

  • out and about

  • nighttime

  • why pooing in a potty is different, psychologically, to wee-ing in the potty

  • why not to use a star chart

  • feelings and frustrations

  • going backwards?

  • body positivity and consent

 "The workshop was really helpful. We are just at the beginning of this journey and loving the advice to spend lots of time nappy free when you can. We did this yesterday and had lots of accidents but at the end of the day, without prompting E sat on the potty and did a poo."

The workshop is aimed at parents of toddlers, from eighteen months up. Most children start using a potty or toilet between the ages of two and three. Elimination communication (EC), where babies use potties or toilets for poos and/or wees from earlier age is mentioned in this workshop but the focus is on those who have not used the EC approach. The workshop may still be useful for those who used a combination. The approach in this workshop is complimentary to EC.

I am now offering training for you to deliver Toddler led toileting workshops to parents in your area. Click HERE for more details. 

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Here are my top tips for Toddler led toileting. 

You can download a pdf of this by clicking the button below. 

 Next workshop

Wednesday 6th July 2022

7.30- 9.15


(Doesn't matter if you are join late, or can't make it on the night, a recording will be sent, along with more information, and useful links.)

Cost £25 - £15

Pay what you can afford

Workshop will be on Zoom, and a recording will be sent after, along with more information and links.